Friday, October 2, 2015

7 Secrets to an AWESOME Marriage REVIEW


7 Secrets to an Awesome MarriageStrengthen Your Most Intimate Relationship

By Kim Kimberling, PhD, Craig and Amy Groeschel
Published by Zondervan

Book Description

This book offers real, practical, readable marriage advice from a Christian counselor who has worked with couples for thirty years.
Strong, successful marriages require hard work and a guide. Dr. Kim Kimberling is that wise guide, and this book and its tools show wives and husbands how the kind of communication and intimacy that results in loving, lifelong marriages can be theirs.
Kimberling offers insights like connecting every day in spite of what’s in the way, learning how to fight in the right ways, stopping the insanity of doing the same thing over and over even when it isn’t working, and finding that the best sex ever is well within the context of Christian marriages.
7 Secrets to an Awesome Marriage is filled with stories—stories of people who struggle and stories of people who struggle and win.
Marriage books are highly sought after and represent a strong felt need by consumers. Marriages are in jeopardy as much as ever with nearly 50% ending in divorce. The secrets in this book work and offer couples real hope and a template for change.

Amazon's Description:
All of us want an enduring marriage, a beautiful marriage we can believe in. That kind of marriage happens through intimacy. Intimacy requires hard work and a guide. Dr. Kim Kimberling is that guide and this book and its tools will show you how communication and intimacy in marriage can be yours. 

Kimberling offers insights like connecting every day in spite of what’s in the way, learning how to fight in the right ways, stopping the insanity of doing the same thing over and over even when it isn’t working, and finding that the best sex ever is well within the context of Christian marriages. 

Once these 7 secrets are a part of your marriage, you can stand together and fight anything that would ever try to tear your marriage apart. 

Whether you have just celebrated your first anniversary or your fiftieth, 7 Secrets to an Awesome Marriage by Dr. Kim Kimberling is for you.  If you have a good marriage, this book can help you have a great marriage.  If you are struggling, Kim Kimberling will help you turn the corner and make your marriage into what you want it to be

About the Author

Dr. Kimberling has been a professional counselor for over thirty years. He holds a Ph.D. and Doctor of Ministry in Christian Counseling. He also holds a Master’s Degree in Christian Ministry and Theological Studies. He is the president and co-founder of Family Christian Counseling in Oklahoma City. Dr. Kimberling is passionate about helping equip couples for marriage.  He is the founder and leader of the Awesome Marriage Movement connecting people globally who want to have awesome marriages. He is also a professional Christian life coach and loves helping people close the gap between where they are and the life God has for them. Dr. Kimberling has been married to his wife Nancy for over forty years and they have two grown married children and five incredible grandchildren.

My Review:
There's nothing wrong with the 7 Secrets discussed in this book but there is a problem with squabbling couples being able to address them. If they can, then very likely they'll achieve a strong marriage, but that's a big `if'.
There was one chapter that discusses sex in marriage which the author, common to most Christian oriented books today, regards as a gift from God given to married couples.Then it goes on to say that spouses need to discuss their needs and desires with each other, and honestly I think that's a good thing .Other chapters the  author goes on to say that many are dysfunctional in this area due to oppressive upbringing or being molested as a child. Even without these sorts of handicaps, many folks cannot bring themselves to openly discuss anything on this topic due to a variety of causes and attitudes but honestly I have been abused and I do not have an Issue with talking about what I want out of our relationship , but many men especially cannot even express themselves well as to why they like or dislike a certain color of clothes worn by their wives.Honestly asking this bunch to explore what acts will please their wives is near impossible.In another section, the author does on to say that putting God as foremost in your life even over your spouse is a way to marital happiness. Again, a good start because any couple that can agree on a unifying mission or pursuit will be a strong couple because they are bound by this commonality.  Couples can unite around anything - not just God or religion, and couples who are utterly dedicated to duplicate bridge or collecting stamps will be a strong couple. God or religious practice is only one thing, but like anything else, it takes a well working couple to agree on what to agree upon.
Where I see this book as  valuable is in a well-functioning marriage where the couple has either figured out or never needed to figure out how to discuss and agree. These 7 tips to a strong marriage are all valid and would be reasonable to implement in a happy marriage to keep the happy marriage strong. Of course, being Christian oriented, the couple would also need to be likewise.I do not see this book to be of much value if your an atheist .
I can't find anything major to disagree with in this book but find it won't help its implied audience - the couple in trouble. It would do well to be read by happy Christian couples and it'll help keep them happy.




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